Ashley Bristowe

Ashley Bristowe is the author of the bestselling memoir, My Own Blood. She lives in Calgary and does the things, including trampoline jumping, French bulldog breeding, and swearing. Her upcoming podcast, Lifetime Achievement, which interviews mothers of disabled children and other people in the blast radius of ableism and disability, launches May 12, 2021.

My Own Blood

My Own Blood by Ashley BristoweMothering under normal circumstances takes all you have to give. But what happens when your child is disabled, and sacrificing all you’ve got and more is the only hope for a decent future? Full of rage and resilience, duty and love, Ashley Bristowe delivers a mother’s voice like no other we’ve heard.

When their second child, Alexander, is diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder, doctors tell Ashley Bristowe and her husband that the boy won’t walk, or even talk—that he is profoundly disabled. Stunned and reeling, Ashley researches a disorder so new it’s just been named—Kleefstra Syndrome—and she finds little hope and a maze of obstacles. Then she comes across the US-based “Institutes,” which have been working to improve the lives of brain-injured children for decades. Recruiting volunteers, organizing therapy, juggling a million tests and appointments, even fundraising as the family falls deep into debt, Ashley devotes years of 24/7 effort to running an impossibly rigorous diet and therapy programme for their son with the hope of saving his life, and her own. The ending is happy: he will never be a “normal” boy, but Alexander talks, he walks, he swims, he plays the piano (badly) and he goes to school.

This victory isn’t clean and it’s far from pretty; the personal toll on Ashley is devastating. “It takes a village,” people say, but too much of their village is uncomfortable with her son’s difference, the therapy regimen’s demands and the family’s bottomless need. The health and provincial services bureaucracy set them a maddening set of hoops to jump through, showing how disabled children and their families languish because of criminally low expectations about what can be done to help.

My Own Blood is an uplifting story, but it never shies away from the devastating impact of a baby that science couldn’t predict and medicine couldn’t help. It’s the story of a woman who lost everything she’d once been–a professional, an optimist, a joker, a capable adult–in sacrifice to her son. An honest account of a woman’s life turned upside down.

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“I was completely swept away by Ashley Bristowe’s book. For three days I could do nothing but read it. I felt totally immersed in her life, her struggles, and her thoughts. She writes about her son’s early years, not retrospectively, but in the midst of the experience, ongoingly, from that high-stakes perspective where nothing is resolved. I don’t think I will ever forget my encounter with her frankness, her devotion, her lostness, her immersion in the extremes of life, or her propulsive and urgent writing.”
Sheila Heti, author of Motherhood and The Middle Stories

“Most books about raising children with serious disabilities aim for optimism, and sound exactly alike. But once in a while, a gifted writer produces a brutally honest and utterly readable account of that dark, detailed, furious, unseen world, after which you can’t see ordinary life the same way again. It’s a rare gift, but Ashley Bristowe’s My Own Blood is that kind of book. You need to read it, as soon as possible.”
Ian Brown, Globe & Mail columnist and author of The Boy in the Moon

“My Own Blood is like the clearest window pane, through which we have the privilege to observe, absorb, the extraordinary journey of love between a mother and her very special child, and also view the price she, and all of us, pay for freedom, perseverance, hope and fulfillment. A stunner of a memoir in which each sentence either sings or stings.”
Deepa Mehta, 2x Oscar-nominated filmmaker

“My Own Blood is a look-you-in-the-eye conversation about motherhood—the glory and the wretchedness. Ashley Bristowe tells her remarkable story with ferocious candour and hard-won insights into how we regard disability and parents who grapple with its challenges. A wonderful book, just bursting at the seams with bravery, honesty and heart. My own heart beat faster as I read it.”
Gill Deacon, CBC Radio host and author

“This memoir is as unputdownable as the best thriller. Really, I was awake until 3 AM reading this true story of a sharp-witted, foul-mouthed mother losing her mind as she saves (and utterly transforms) her severely disabled son’s life. Ashley Bristowe meets our collective silence about disability head-on and speaks, cries, sings and laughs in its (our) face. This is not a tidy depiction of singular heroism. It’s shockingly real, painful, hilarious, and, at times, terrifying. Over and over again, she shows how we, too, each of us, can and must summon the political will and the moral courage to respect, to love and to share our power with the most vulnerable people among us. An extraordinary testament to human connection. And swearing.”
Karen Connelly, GG winner for Touch The Dragon and author of Burmese Lessons and The Change Room

“Written with spare, feisty, sparkling prose, My Own Blood places the reader squarely inside a human experience few could imagine but many must endure—raising a special-needs child amidst a society far less caring than we pretend to ourselves. A gripping and defiant memoir of parental commitment, distress, struggle and vindication.”
Gabor Maté, MD, author of When the Body Says No and In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts

Writing Agent Contact:
Hilary McMahon, Westwood

Media Bookings:
Tonia Adderson

Policy Work, Photography & Project Management

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Globe & Mail, Raygun, Swerve, Up! magazine, CBC Radio, Kon-strux Developments, Valhalla Wilderness Society, Girl Guides of Canada, CBC Radio, BellGlobeMedia, BBC Netherlands, Leap Adventures, CKUA Radio, Shift magazine, University of Calgary, 2 Magazine, Alberta Venture

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